Seasoned Single author Joan Barrett has navigated the tricky, exciting and challenging Mature Singles lifestyle in her own modus vivendi, as can you. Joan’s passion for SINS (her playful term for Singles INternet Dating Services) and its benefits for Mature Singles inspired her to create Candyland S.I.N.S. to support current members, especially newbies, and not-yet members who want to know more about this Candyland of tempting treats.
In her continuing journey, one punctuated with sugary highs and fall-back lows, she has endured many disappointments and disillusionments but has always bounced back. Her experiences will ably help readers navigate the peaks, the valleys and … the inevitable curves. She has maneuvered them all and has survived to tell about some of them with a smile.
Left Suddenly Single at 62, Joan began her new life in unfamiliar territory by facing it head-on. She opened a cooking school for ‘Seasoned’ Singles called Kiss the Cook xo. She saw the need to encourage interaction in the somewhat socially marginalized, at the time, Mature Singles segment of the population. This venture renewed her energy and love for life.
Joan then discovered the existence of SINS for Mature Singles. Her entrance into this new-to-her, exciting online dating world further invigorated her as she joined other like-minded Mature Singles who were not about out to roll over alone and sit out their remaining years. Candyland S.I.N.S. was written for those who have chosen, as Joan did, to do the same. Life loves people who live it with passion.
As a member of SINS, Joan has formed innumerable friendships and been blessed with two very deep relationships that morphed into enduring connections. Her exposure to the broad range of members in SINS has changed her life forever. She has actively participated in SINS over a fun-filled eight year period, a deep enough engagement to know the game and how the game is being played … and how not to be played!
Joan initially joined SINS with the intention to find that special one long-term relationship so many seek. At times she found it necessary after disappointing or failed attempts to connect with that exceptional match to pick herself up, dust herself off and start all over again. At other times she communicated and dated just for the sheer fun of it or to allow herself to heal, recharge and once again move forward. Joan discovered SINS is a world of continuous life and activity if you know how to present and conduct yourself. This world is anything but dull; any member new to the scene may be the one.
Joan has never lost her fascination with SINS and how they function in Singles society … particularly Mature Singles society. She has seen and experienced SINS become the mainstay for Mature Singles dating … yes, the only real game in town for their age range. Mature Daters generally do not hang out, prowl bars or go to Singles socials to meet potential partners. While SINS have provided her and so many Mature Singles with abundant smiles, laughs, good times … and love, she and other Matures have also been dealt their share of heartaches and tears. To experience the bad along with the good … isn’t that how we know we are still alive?
Candyland S.I.N.S. is Joan’s compilation of truthful firsthand and shared accounts of Mature Internet-dating and an in-depth guide on how to successfully navigate it … practically and emotionally. It is based on her experiences and those of other members in the SINS community, as well as in topical and statistical resources and studies. At times light-hearted and at times bleak, but never dull, Candyland S.I.N.S. informs and entertains you. Joan will introduce you to this online world and in ensuing chapters keep you looking forward to what could be around the next corner you (and her) as you all seek your later-in-life and, possibly, best ‘hurrah’.
Contact Joan at firstname.lastname@example.org
Visit Candyland S.I.N.S. at: www.candylandsins.com
Visit Candyland S.I.N.S. at: www.facebook.com/candylandsins
One of many 'chats' and book signings for the launch of Candyland S.I.N.S. It was wonderful to see so many wanting to hear the positive messages about mature online dating. I hope it will lead some to more fulfilling and fun lives. Life is meant to be lived with passion.
Visit Candyland S.I.N.S. at: www.facebook.com/candylandsins
It is an interactive site for Singles who have loved and lost and are ready to love again. JB
Welcome to my World ... Mature online dating.
SINS (Singles INternet-dating Services)
Make your last act worthy of a 'standing ovation'!
Fill it with life, love and laughter.
Enjoy these three short radio interview segments with Brian Master of the Evasive Radio Group of Jewel stations. They are fun and informative as to how SINS (Singles Internet-dating Services actually function on the mature dating scene.
Joan preparing for another radio interview.
Visit Joan at: www.facebook.com/candylandsins an interactive site for Singles who have loved and lost and are ready to love again. JB
Be sure to check out this recent informative and well-written article about mature singles and online dating and my interview on Candyland S.I.N.S. by Paul Rellinger for mykawartha.com The Kawarthan Metrolandland Media Group.
Candyland S.I.N.S. Book Chapter Snippets
Enjoy ... JB
…Young and Seasoned Mature Dating and Sex are here to stay! Get used to it. Baby boomers are once again breaking down barriers. Yes, MATURE DATING and SEX are now even mentioned in public … not common in polite conversation until the advent of online dating. Our hearts can still skip a beat … and, unfortunately, ache and break as well. May the happier sort of heart condition be in store for you as you venture through the Candyland of SINS. Be ready for a rollercoaster ride that can place your heart in your throat ... a heart pumping with new life, exhilarated and re-generated … a heart sometimes broken if you leap into SINS without sufficient guidance and controls in place.
Baby boomer daters experience new love with the same telltale characteristics such as those zany feelings and emotions of their teens and twenties. Falling in love at any older age can bring out the teenager in most of us … the best and the worst parts. Quite often we experience even better relationships … less fleeting and with more depth. Most of us who have loved and lost are more appreciative of this glorious state in which we may now find ourselves.
Candyland SINS (my playful loose acronym for Singles Internet-dating Services) is a seemingly murky, if not temptingly exotic, world to which so many Single Matures are drawn. Internet dating is an ever expanding world-wide phenomenon that is more than flourishing. You can be part of and benefit from that growth because the dating pool for Matures is becoming increasingly larger. A 2013 E-Harmony study predicted that the age 55-64 bracket is expected to have the biggest online growth, with a 30 percent increase between 2013 and 2030 … from 1.87 million to 2.41 million members in this age category. The study further foresees by 2031 half of all couples will have met online … as will seven in ten couple by 2040. The sites within SINS await you to join other mature daters in their search for future partners and mates. Isn’t it great to think not of inevitable endings but of expectant beginnings!
Consider slowly joining (as in not all in the same day or even the same week) a combination of sites that might be appropriate and for free in order to get your feet wet and give yourself some experience. Doing so would allow you to explore in different directions at little cost. Play the different fields just as you might do socially in your own traditional communities. SINS is your new community … and a wide open one it is.
Please be aware that the free sites tend to be more heavily populated with unsavory characters. Always practice safe singling. Follow your safety guidelines; stay in control of your communications and interactions.
… these sites take their members’ safety and security very seriously. Many entities use fraud detection algorithms and employ living, breathing people who review every dating profile at the time at registration. You can browse, connect, flirt and email with confidence. Unless you foolishly break some of the safety precautions recommended both in Candyland S.I.N.S. and on individual sites, your privacy and security are pretty much secured.
I have had many examples of both types of members email me with almost every lifestyle depicted in their photos that I can only imagine: from sea farmers to cattle ranchers, from metropolitan sophisticates to farmers in suspendered dungarees, from a yogi in his wrapped robe to an Indian chief in his headdress, and more. I will always remember the prisoner. I didn’t see his surroundings, but the headshot in the orange jump suit was a big clue. He stated his profession as ‘law enforcement’. I believe he lived in a gated community, just not the one that most would want to share with him. I can say he was creative. A large number of matching sites exist for both male and female prisoners. He picked the wrong site.
Would anyone be interested in me?
Yes, generally. Of course, you have to be realistic in your expectations of how many might be interested in you. Also, you may not find those contacting you acceptable. You must do more searches, extend yourself, truthfully re-work your profile, and approach those whom you want to meet because you sense something special about them in their profiles. .… Your appearance, lifestyle, interests, background, etc. And certainly, how well you present yourself and express your personality in your profile all come into play.
Sex in your mature years …. You cannot ignore that it will become, at minimum, a focus of your thoughts and, likely, discussions with your potential partner as you continue to see each other …. And, if you are both agreeable and sexually compatible you can enjoy the some of the best sexual sharing of your lives … in your 50’s, 60’s, 70’s and beyond.
How you expand your boundaries and morph your expectations while meeting members from many walks of life is dependent upon you … and a bit on fate. I suspect most of us, if we met the absolutely right one who knocked our socks off, would settle into a partnered life. But in this era, the alternative lifestyle of self-determined Singleton living (living Solo) is not at all a negative one and certainly better than so many Marrieds tied down and drowning in unhappy relationships. The Solo living option may be one you want to explore as an alternative to full-time partnering. Here is yet another lifestyle choice.
Embrace your life at this stage with good humor, passion, gusto and goals. Your family and friends will just have to go with the flow. Many Matures will not be deterred from living their remaining years and decades with enthusiasm … and positive actions exploring and forging new paths for greater happiness.
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