Candyland S.I.N.S. (Singles INternet-dating Services)Your Insider's Guide to Mature Online Dating print books and Ebooks are available to purchase at Chapters.Indigo.ca, Amazon.ca, Amazon.com, BarnesandNoble.com
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Order now to receive in time to gift your favorite Singles who are online dating ... or considering it.
All Joan's previous shows with Jeff
were fun and fast-paced. She will be returning to Jeff Moore's Daytime Rogers York Region TV in March. Photos are her interview with Daytime Rogers York Region's Jeff Moore for Valentine's
Day. She discusses fears when approaching online dating and helpful Internet dating advice how to be successful. Click and enjoy!
(Singles INternet-dating Services)
Your Insider's Guide
male and female friendly
This practical and emotional approach to Mature Online Dating
Order your guides now to receive in time to gift your favourite Singles who are online dating ... or considering it.
These great fun and helpful presents will be accompanied by lively conversations for you and all your single friends to help
navigate through a new exciting year with a positive productive approach to online dating.
Joan at home in an interview about her book Candyland S.I.N.S.
Click below and view Joan in her SiriusXM 167 interview with Christine Bentley and Kate Wheeler. Entertaining and informative for SINS online dating.
Author Joan Barrett discusses 'mature online dating'
on HuffPost Live
The Huffington Post
Enjoy this video on mature online dating. Click on Joan's interview with devilish and fun Jeff Moore on Daytime York Region Rogers TV.
Joan's SiriusXM 167 'mature online dating' radio interview
with Christine Bentley and Kate Wheeler
What’s It All About?
The truths and the
The facts and the fiction
The preconceptions and the misconceptions
The expectations and the
The heartthrobs and the heartaches
The successes and the disappointments
The chills and the thrills
Below are just a few 'teaser' chapters.
“Why not go out on a limb? That’s where the fruit is.”
Here you are ... single ... maybe again! Probably for the first time in decades ... an inevitable ending or an enviable ‘last act’? What is your next step?
Feelings of Fear, Rejection, Mistrust, Hurt, and Anger ... dump them ...
What a gruesome picture!
These ‘thieves’ rob you of your potential for happiness and/or contentment. How can you rid yourself of such ballast?
Picking Your Site/s...
Like a child in Candyland ... choose whatever site/s you like.
Yes, you probably will want more than one. What sites are right for your ‘sightings’?
A picture is worth a thousand words could not be truer than in online dating
How to Read a Profile ...
eyes wide open and between
the lines What they are telling you ...
and what they are not telling you
Catfish & Players
You are now a member of SINS
how are you going to handle Catfish and Players?
Safety is paramount ....
Luck runs out, but safety is good for life.
SEX ... intimate engagements
Almost forgotten, illusive, highly-prized and sought-after
More 'teaser' mature online dating chapters to come ... including passages ... keep checking in. I'm working on it! JB
Important request: Please contact Joan on her contact page with your interesting online dating experiences and relationships. She is assembling the best from her readers' online dating cache for her next book. The stories will be anonymous and changed slightly to protect any resemblance to actual occurrences. There will be no monetary compensation ... just the fun of knowing you were part of the big picture of SINS.
And, please leave your email address on the Contact Page to be added to Joan's reader list if you would like to be contacted with news, articles, appearances or new books. The list will be confidential and used only for news related to Joan Barrett and Candyland S.I.N.S.
Candyland S.I.N.S. ….
S.I.N.S. is Joan Barrett’s playful acronym
for Singles INternet-dating Services. But, Candyland S.I.N.S. is a very serious endeavor with much research and statistics … sprinkled with humorous aging and online dating cartoons by an internationally
syndicated (The Other Half) cartoonist who has done some of the Chicken Soup series. Supported by her first hand online dating accounts, it is an insider’s practical and emotional guide
thoroughly detailed with how to prepare, enter, enjoy and survive SINS with a smile on your face. … perhaps one of a Cheshire cat! Joan encourages her readers to practice safe involvement in what
is really the only game in town for Mature Singles.
Mature online dating is a pertinent topic in a still murky area that needs clarification along with encouragement. Detailed safety measures are part of this positive guide … with chapters on ‘Scammers’, ‘Catfish and Players', 'Safety Guidelines' and ‘How to Read a Profile … what they say and what they don’t say’. The practical aspects of ‘Picking Sites’ and ‘Online Dating Etiquette’ are discussed including the important tasks of the writing, reading and photography of online dating profiles; the emotions of ‘Fear, Rejection, Mistrust, Hurt and Anger’ borne by Mature daters and ‘Sex’ with its health benefits and precautions are sensitively addressed along with today’s Mature Singles’ option of ‘Living Solo’ and enjoying the social aspects of online dating.
Candyland S.I.N.S. is the author Joan Barrett’s compilation of truthful firsthand and shared accounts of Mature online dating and an in-depth guide on how to successfully navigate it … practically and emotionally. It is based on her experiences and those of other members in the online dating community, as well as in numerous topical and statistical resources and studies. At times light-hearted supported by spot-on topical cartoons and at times serious with online dating cautionary tales and safety conduct recommendations, but never dull, Candyland S.I.N.S. informs and entertains.
Enjoy the following link: three short radio
interview segments with Brian Master of the Evanov Radio Group of Jewel stations. They are fun and informative as to how SINS (Singles Internet-dating Services actually function on the mature dating scene.
Joan preparing for another radio interview.
Visit Joan at: www.facebook.com/candylandsins an interactive site for Singles who have loved and lost and are ready to love again. JB
Be sure to check out this recent informative and well-written article about mature singles and online dating and my interview on Candyland S.I.N.S. by Paul Rellinger for mykawartha.com The Kawarthan Metrolandland Media Group.
Candyland S.I.N.S. Book Chapter Snippets
Enjoy ... JB
…Young and Seasoned Mature Dating and Sex are here to stay! Get used to it. Baby boomers are once again breaking down barriers. Yes, MATURE DATING and SEX are now even mentioned in public … not common in polite conversation until the advent of online dating. Our hearts can still skip a beat … and, unfortunately, ache and break as well. May the happier sort of heart condition be in store for you as you venture through the Candyland of SINS. Be ready for a rollercoaster ride that can place your heart in your throat ... a heart pumping with new life, exhilarated and re-generated … a heart sometimes broken if you leap into SINS without sufficient guidance and controls in place.
Baby boomer daters experience new love with the same telltale characteristics such as those zany feelings and emotions of their teens and twenties. Falling in love at any older age can bring out the teenager in most of us … the best and the worst parts. Quite often we experience even better relationships … less fleeting and with more depth. Most of us who have loved and lost are more appreciative of this glorious state in which we may now find ourselves.
Candyland SINS (my playful loose acronym for Singles Internet-dating Services) is a seemingly murky, if not temptingly exotic, world to which so many Single Matures are drawn. Internet dating is an ever expanding world-wide phenomenon that is more than flourishing. You can be part of and benefit from that growth because the dating pool for Matures is becoming increasingly larger. A 2013 E-Harmony study predicted that the age 55-64 bracket is expected to have the biggest online growth, with a 30 percent increase between 2013 and 2030 … from 1.87 million to 2.41 million members in this age category. The study further foresees by 2031 half of all couples will have met online … as will seven in ten couple by 2040. The sites within SINS await you to join other mature daters in their search for future partners and mates. Isn’t it great to think not of inevitable endings but of expectant beginnings!
Consider slowly joining (as in not all in the same day or even the same week) a combination of sites that might be appropriate and for free in order to get your feet wet and give yourself some experience. Doing so would allow you to explore in different directions at little cost. Play the different fields just as you might do socially in your own traditional communities. SINS is your new community … and a wide open one it is.
Please be aware that the free sites tend to be more heavily populated with unsavory characters. Always practice safe singling. Follow your safety guidelines; stay in control of your communications and interactions.
… these sites take their members’ safety and security very seriously. Many entities use fraud detection algorithms and employ living, breathing people who review every dating profile at the time at registration. You can browse, connect, flirt and email with confidence. Unless you foolishly break some of the safety precautions recommended both in Candyland S.I.N.S. and on individual sites, your privacy and security are pretty much secured.
I have had many examples of both types of members email me with almost every lifestyle depicted in their photos that I can only imagine: from sea farmers to cattle ranchers, from metropolitan sophisticates to farmers in suspendered dungarees, from a yogi in his wrapped robe to an Indian chief in his headdress, and more. I will always remember the prisoner. I didn’t see his surroundings, but the headshot in the orange jump suit was a big clue. He stated his profession as ‘law enforcement’. I believe he lived in a gated community, just not the one that most would want to share with him. I can say he was creative. A large number of matching sites exist for both male and female prisoners. He picked the wrong site.
Would anyone be interested in me?
Yes, generally. Of course, you have to be realistic in your expectations of how many might be interested in you. Also, you may not find those contacting you acceptable. You must do more searches, extend yourself, truthfully re-work your profile, and approach those whom you want to meet because you sense something special about them in their profiles. .… Your appearance, lifestyle, interests, background, etc. And certainly, how well you present yourself and express your personality in your profile all come into play.
Sex in your mature years …. You cannot ignore that it will become, at minimum, a focus of your thoughts and, likely, discussions with your potential partner as you continue to see each other …. And, if you are both agreeable and sexually compatible you can enjoy the some of the best sexual sharing of your lives … in your 50’s, 60’s, 70’s and beyond.
How you expand your boundaries and morph your expectations while meeting members from many walks of life is dependent upon you … and a bit on fate. I suspect most of us, if we met the absolutely right one who knocked our socks off, would settle into a partnered life. But in this era, the alternative lifestyle of self-determined Singleton living (living Solo) is not at all a negative one and certainly better than so many Marrieds tied down and drowning in unhappy relationships. The Solo living option may be one you want to explore as an alternative to full-time partnering. Here is yet another lifestyle choice.
Embrace your life at this stage with good humor, passion, gusto and goals. Your family and friends will just have to go with the flow. Many Matures will not be deterred from living their remaining years and decades with enthusiasm … and positive actions exploring and forging new paths for greater happiness.
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